THE INTRODUCTION AND FACTS ABOUT DATING.

THE INTRODUCTION AND FACTS ABOUT DATING.
GENERAL OVERVIEW OF DATING.
Dating was invented within the last 200 years. Prior to that time, marriage always involved much more input from the parents, and "trial relationships" leading up to marriage (what we now call "dating") were not conducted at all. Dating arose out of the eighteenth century philosophical movement which we now call "Romanticism" it emphasized, among other things, passion rather than logic. Writers such as Rousseau lamented that Western civilization had fallen into the "error" of exalting reason over feelings. He proposed making decisions based on emotions rather than intellect.
Fundamentals of Dating
When I was in gathering, a man walked in and move d straight to the most attractive young woman and started talking to her, he was actually quite a bit older than the girl he was talking to, but they left the place together after about half an hour to a presumably happy destination. How many men have the courage that the man had? Most men would be afraid to walk up to the most attractive woman in a room and introduce themselves. I suspect other men, remembered friendly overtures to women at singles events, but were met with silent stares that imply something like, "Are you from earth?" and "Leave me alone you perverted sexual harasser". Mysteriously that did not happen to the rare being I saw that night.
The day after witnessing the rare being in action, I went for a singles swing dance, near one of the tables surrounding the dance floor was a very attractive woman. I decided to attempt to emulate the rare being I had witnessed the day before and approached her. I introduced myself and to my total surprise, I was not met with a hostile stare. She was actually friendly! After our conversation, she actually told me that she was glad to meet me! After the events, I begin to think that some people have low self esteem and depressions most of the time. Some men have a lot of anger toward women for rejecting them. One thing people could do is to work on improving their self esteem, their outlook towards women and their mood. Once you improve your outlook and mood ,you may find that being yourself is another thing that needs to be in order to attract a girlfriend.
I was watching Miss Teen USA in 2004 and one of the beauties was discussing the problem of teenagers not being themselves in order to fit in. She said that it's better to be yourself and love yourself and that love would shine through and others would like you. I think her advice is very profound. ‘Love yourself and others Will Too’ is actually the title of a book by a Psychiatrist , Dr. Twersky. May be you should work on loving yourself if you wants love from others. You may ask, "How can I love myself"? Isn't love a natural emotion that is either there or not there? Just as you can't make yourself love someone you can't make yourself love yourself. On the other hand ,you can be less hard on yourself and praise yourself for little things and then self love may come.
Women sense men's attitudes and vice versa. If a man regards women as treacherous beings who manipulate him and then dumps him for men with more money, the man is unlikely to be attractive to women he meets. If he views them in a positive way they are likely to sense that and view him that way as well. If we are already in a relationship and we want it to work, we need to maintain a positive regard for each other.
Our happiness and our own positive outlook is a lot of what makes us attractive. I've noticed that when I'm happy a lot more girls say hi than when I'm not. A lot of people are unhappy when they don't have a girlfriend.
ONLINE DATING
Online dating is one of the easiest way to meet a range of great people ,but of course there are dangers to consider. While millions of honest, caring and serious people use online dating services, it is the comparative handful of bad guys that get all the press. These few bad guys use the internet to scam and spam innocent victims, but with a little common sense and background safety information you will have no cause for concern. Read on, make the most of safe, successful online dating.
UNDERSTANDING THE TREND ON YOUR ONLINE DATING.
There are many singles like yourself who are trying to meet compatible others. They are planning trips to the beach, signing up for outdoor activities and classes; and finding new ways to network while pursuing passions and interests that will offer them the experiences that happy memories are made of. Don't wait!
This section was written to help you become more successful in connecting with compatible singles through the Internet. As many of you know from your experience with this, the whole process can be confusing, overwhelming and disappointing. There are safety issues, concerns about the honesty of the person you think you are communicating with and many frustrations associated with it, how and when to move to the next step of a face-to-face meeting.
Spam and Solicitation
More irritating than dangerous, spamming is the act of sending unwanted commercial advertising material as electronic junk mail, known as spam. Soliciting is the act of urging someone to buy something. If you’re being spammed or solicited by someone you’ve met through an online dating service, cease contact with that person and report their behavior as inappropriate. Hopefully you will have set up a separate email account for online dating use, so that it will be easy to quarantine the spammer’s emails. Otherwise most email service providers have so-called junk filters or spam blockers to keep the trash out of your inbox.
Online Dating Scams
Scams are more serious, because the perpetrators are more sophisticated and the stakes higher, both financially and emotionally. There are many different variations of online dating scams, but generally a scammer posts fake profiles on online dating services, befriends online dating users and manipulates their emotions with the aim of extracting money from the victim.
Reputable online dating services have safety checks in place in an attempt to verify the legitimacy of members’ profiles, but scammers can still slip through using photos downloaded from the internet and fake profiles. While many scammers come from Russia, Eastern Europe and Africa and target men, there is no concrete format. Anyone can be the target of a scammer and anyone that asks for money is a scammer. Information, education and vigilance are the best forms of protection against online dating scammers and the golden rule is NEVER SEND MONEY TO SOMEONE YOU’VE MET ONLINE.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Q. I have been corresponding through email with a man I met through a personal ad. We have been "talking" for over three weeks. The conversations have been pleasant and easy. I'm interested and I think he may be too. However, neither of us has made any suggestion about meeting face-to-face. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I have been waiting for him to bring this up. I'm pretty disappointed that he hasn't. He has even put me on his buddy list and forwards me joke and interest emails that go out to his friends, etc. The last few days, I haven't heard back since the last email I sent to him. He said he would be away and very busy for a week. Is he trying to tell me something gently? When should two people meet in person after a cyber connection? Who should bring this up? Are there rules or guidelines that I'm not aware of?
A. There is no hard and fast "rules" for meeting and dating through the Internet. However, I am offering some guidelines that can help you to answer your question (s) while maximizing your efforts and chance for success.
First of all, it is hard to know after only emailing someone whether they are really interested in getting to know you. He has shown some interest through his emails, but you have no other feedback to go on.. Therefore, you shouldn't assume anything yet.
Your comment about being "old-fashioned" may be true- not bad- just accurate. Women are stepping up more and more as the ones who initiate getting together when they have met someone of interest. If this is just too hard for you, you may not be ready or willing to try. If you are open to it, it can bring some satisfactory results. It depends on what this guy really wants at this time. Many women are happily married or in relationships that they initiated. If you are in a game, you can make a gentle suggestion about getting together for coffee or a drink. Using your own best style will make you the most comfortable and come across well to this guy.
When two people should actually meet is a greatly debated topic. I am of the belief that once two people have connected through the Internet and have begun a mutually pleasant discourse, they should not wait too long to meet. Emailing will give you part of a picture and some (virtual) sense of how you feel about another person. However, you need to meet to know if there is physical chemistry, good conversation and positive energy. You could go on like you are for a very long time- some people do- with no progress.
If someone is truly interested, they will want to meet. If they are not, or are hiding something or being less than truthful, they will attempt to avoid a face-to-face meeting. In the meantime, you will be wasting time and energy that could be spent meeting someone who wants what you want and is truly available.
I recommend you raise the issue of meeting the next time you hear from him. If he agrees, move to the next step. If he has many reasons over a period of weeks or a month that he cannot, cut your losses and move on. I hope to come back with a more interesting write up very soon.
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